Tagged with Grief

Swimming

I haven’t written because I feel a bit like I suck at life right now.  Do you ever have those times? Like, people who are good at life make sure to keep in touch with their friends, getting at least a text in there somehow. People who are good at life don’t fall so far … Continue reading

Why you should break Lent on Sundays

At work we’ve had some friendly disagreements about the way we look at Lenten fasts (Lenten Fast = fancy Christian word for choosing to sacrifice something from Ash Wednesday to Easter.  It may be an abstention, like from a favorite food, or it may be a gift, like offering your time to a cause.) Yes, … Continue reading

Your Sisters’ Birthday

Your Sisters’ Birthday

I suppose the first post about our new baby should be full of happiness.  It will be.  This is not about him.  Something else happened to come first. Dear Riley, Just shy of a year ago, in the grey days when all we could do was sit or walk slowly around the block, your daddy … Continue reading

Touring

when you have a baby after losing babies… you will tour the hospital and walk smack into the room where you lost them. then you will cry.  crying that wells up from your gut subconsciously, because you thought you were just walking down the hall. you will feel embarrassed, because you have become used to warning … Continue reading

Steps of Faith

Is this your first? In the past 2.5 weeks, I’ve been asked five times.  Always by strangers, of course.  Once was a door-to-door vaccuum salesman for Kirby.  (Those things are impressive!  I didn’t know what I was getting into when I let them in, and I had been home all week while Curtis was at … Continue reading

Guest Post from My Momma

Guest Post from My Momma

Yesterday, Team World Vision posted an edited version of my mom’s story from the 13.1 L.A. in January. Her full story is even better–she’s a very gifted writer. My mind has been a bit of a jumble this week because on Sunday, this baby will be as old as Kate and Lucy were.  Lovely, kind … Continue reading

Dear Curtis, Happy Father’s Day,

There’s a darkness, which comes without a warning But I will sing you lullabies and wake you in the morning.  -Come to Me, Les Mis We’ve gone back and forth–it is ‘harder’ to have been the pregnant one, physically experiencing losing our girls, like you sometimes say?  Or is it harder to be in your … Continue reading

Guest Blogger at All Groan Up

Guest Blogger at All Groan Up

Today I’m a guest blogger over at All Groan Up, a forum dedicated to navigating life in the twenty-somethings, hosted by my college friend Paul Angone. I thought about how many of us experience our first severe encounter with grief in our 20s, and decided to give some advice especially for friends who are walking … Continue reading

Stand- Chapel Talk Video

Stand- Chapel Talk Video

I’ve told you that I spoke in chapel a few weeks ago, stepping in unexpectedly when a dear friend of our university community passed away.  They record our chapel time, so the video came out this past week, and I’ve included it below. Let me say, dear reader/viewer, that I apologize for how much I … Continue reading

Stand…part 3 of 3

I spoke to our university students in chapel last Wednesday.  This is part 3 of the message I wrote for them.  Read part 1 and part 2 … All other writing on losing the girls can be seen by clicking the tag ‘grief,’ above. Ten weeks ago my daughters died.  And I could hear the music enticing me to bow.  … Continue reading